83 Beauty of a Mother-Daughter Relationship

Monday, September 6, 2010




When I was 7…
Me:  “ Awwhh Mommy :( these oats taste yakk :-&! I hate them…”
Mommy: “ But they are good for your health dear,”
Me: “But….”
Mommy: “No ifs and buts :| you have 5 mins to empty the bowl”
Me: “Yeah.. I will. Hey momma!! your new dress is so great! Oh you got new sandals too? :D When am I getting the same kinda dress and sandals?? I need the same color….”
Mommy: “You will, but you need to wait!! You have a new dress almost every week and you grow up so fast that many dresses in your wardrobe are used for few hours and they have no use now…”
Me: “:(…”
In my teens…
Mommy: “Got your mark sheet mailed to me. Don’t you think you are getting careless about your studies day by day? And why are you home so late?”
Me: “Oh Momma, take a chill pill ;) I fare better than many other friends of mine… I went to tennis court and got lost there!”
Mommy: “ You could’ve  informed me... Atleast an SMS?”
Me: “Oh Momma, stop bugging me! Am no more a kid. You don’t ask the same questions to bro, do you?"
Mommy: “But…”
Me: “Mooooooooooooommmmmmm 8-|!”
[Grabs my phone]
Me: “Goodnight Momma!”
[Gets into ma room and bangs the door shutting myself in]
After my teens...
Mommy: “Who’s the guy who dropped you home?”
Me: “My friend”
Mommy: “Friend?!?”
Me: “Do you wanna listen anything else other than that?!?”
Mommy: “Forget it…”
Me: “Better!”



I paused here wondering what our future conversation would be like… Spoke to many mothers and daughters, surfed, peeped into my mom’s and grand mom’s relationship!! It was perfect till this point and happens in every woman’s life! And this would be the circle of relationship of a mother and daughter!!
In the wrong-side of twenties:
Daughter: “Oh mommy!! How many times I asked you to empty the bowl of these oats! I know they taste awful but you also know they work awesome on your health”
Mom: “I know… by the way, where did you get your new dress from? It looks so bright and good, I liked it”
Daughter: “ :)”
[Takes the similar dress to her mom- the same day]
Few Years later:
On Phone:
Daughter: “ Momma, am at wits end with your granddaughter ~x(! She hates almost everything I tell her, shez never back home on time, fares low at academics and above all, when I ask her something, she feels am intruding!!”
Mom: “ :)…”
Daughter: “You there?”
Mom: “Yeah!! I was just wondering… weren’t you the same in your teens? And I was the same in my teens too…”
Daughter: “ I know how it hurts! Am so sorry momma :(... I love you so much! You are my best friend”

The closest bond in the family is the one that is shared by a mother and her daughter. Theirs is a bittersweet relationship, which goes through numerous ups and downs in life and in the end, still turns out to be the most intimate of all the other relations
In her childhood, a daughter copies her mom and wants to be just like her. At the age of five, her mother is like her goddess. She smears her face with her mom's lipstick and models her earrings and high heels, wanting to be just like mommy. She applies her nail polish, mimics her creams-smothering motion and tries to do everything that she sees her mother doing.
As she enters teenage, a daughter suddenly becomes the most ignorant and out-of-touch creature on the planet, for her mother. In this phase of her life, a daughter feels that her own mother does not understand her feelings. She prefers her friends over her mother and spends as much time away from home as possible. Then, somewhere between her twenties, a daughter realizes that the friend she was searching for throughout the teenage years was so near to her all the time and she is none other than her own mom! The relationship between a daughter and her mother is so complex, yet so simple. When it comes to a woman and her daughter, fights are so common, be it because of the wide age gap between the two or due to the mom being over protective of her daughter or owing to the fact that the mom still treats her grown-up daughter like a kid.
Whenever there is a problem, the mother-daughter duo will be seen standing alongside and facing the world together. A daughter learns to be a woman from her mother. Even after a daughter becomes a mother, she is pampered by her mother. This is what makes their relationship all the more special… :) I love you Momma!! Am what I am today, just becuz of you!

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83 comments:

_-sameer-_ said...

Its so touchy that i was not able to stop my tears come out from my eyes :).Truly said that Mother and daughter are the best friends ever and when a daughter becomes a mother will know how she feels being a Mother. Thanks a lot Anvitha for ur beautiful posts :) No more words to express ....

ADMIRER said...

wow..u did it once again girl..clapss clapss..from ur all posts(previous and present) i can get that ur good with relationshipss and u want them to be perfect...may god grant u such perfect relationshipss ..and we boys, we lov our moms too more than any daughter (eventhough if mom doesnt have any daughters ;)))..keep smiling..keep posting, i'll keep commenting..lol...

Anvitha said...

Thnx Sammy :)

Anvitha said...

Hey Admirer :P thnx

Triveni said...

I still remember how I bothered my mother as a teenager. she was always concerned about my safety and I thought she was interfering too much into my life. Now I have a 3 year old daughter and I can already see me as a kid in her! Now I understand what being mother of a daughter is. You are right, this is a bitter-sweet circle relationship! Was good to see the telephonic conversation because now a days whenever I call my amma thats what I say. "Am sorry amma" And am afraid what my daughter will take me through as a teenager when she grows up

Beryl said...

I have no words to say. I have tears in my eyes. I love you Anvitha. I really miss those good olden days with my mom.

Reena said...

This is all bull shit. Moms never understand their daughters. My mother have problem with whatever I do and she scolds and screams on me for every minute thing. I hate her. i want freedom from her

Anvitha said...

How old are you Reena?

Reena said...

I am 18. Major now.

Anvitha said...

That explains. I was the same at your age! wait for 4 more years; and you will realize she is your best friend!

Reena said...

No. My mother is a devil.

Anvitha said...

My Mother too, when I was at your age! But now she is an angel..

Anonymous said...

hoooooo... Good post

Reena said...

So a devil grew up to be an angel when she grew old?

Anvitha said...

She was always the same! I grew up and got matured enough to understand whoz devil and whoz angel...

Reena said...

Its difficult to talk to you Anvitha. Where are you from?

Anvesh said...

You are incredibly good Anvitha. You rock. Keep going.

Anvitha said...

Thnx Reena! I take it as a compliment. Am from Hyd, India.

Anvitha said...

Thnx Anvesh

Anonymous said...

Hi Anvitha.
Rajesh

Anonymous said...

^:)^ to all moms in the world ^:)^ (whole heartedly).....and to their daughterss :X :X...

Anvitha said...

Lmao Anonymous =)) You are 8-|

neelakanta said...

Very Beautifully put in! Well done Anvitha

Abdul Shammim said...

Bahut Khoob

Anonymous said...

You rock anvi :P

Anvitha said...

Thank You very much! @ Neelakanta Garu

Anonymous said...

Is it just a mother daughter relation that is beautiful? what about other relations? you are a silly girl.

Anvitha said...

Other relations are beautiful too anony... But I dont think I have enough space in ma web log to write about every damn relation!! Anyways, seems you must be very intelligent; you've got brand new brain thats been never used :P

Anonymous said...

8-|

Chandu said...

Hi. Its a good post. Very nice

Akwasibah Ademola said...

Hi. I say in Bemba. Mummy dhovpeksheh aparkahah nintavu love panigaddi apodamcheeni. Ishepi anayo liteh Iresima. I in love with you Anvitha. Amisha abehmima!! :D !!

Anonymous said...

WOW ANVITHA!!

Anvitha said...

Oh My God Ademola :-o :-o :-o What WAASSS that :-o :-ss

Madhuri said...

Reminds me of my relationship with my mother. I am unlucky; I have 2 sons but no daughters! I miss this relationship very much :(

Abbie said...

Hey Anvitha Nice post da!

یشان عبدل . said...

نکے پوسٹ انویٹھا ٹھیس واس امزنگ! بہت اچھا ہیں آپکا دنیا دیکھ پرکھنے کی اندازہ اکو میرا سلام

Anvitha said...

Is that urdu? or Arabic?

Anonymous said...

Not only Ademola and Beryl , who ever reads your posts will fall in love with u .U r such a lovely person who has a matured mind a beautiful heart and a wonderful soul ;)).U could have easily not published the Reena's comments, but to explain her the importance of a MOTHER, u replied her in a very beautiful way which makes u sooooo special . Keep going Anvitha.God Bless u.

---_sameer_--- said...

It is Urdu and jeeshaan Adil wrote

"NIce post Anivtha ,Aap ka duniya dekh parakh ne ka andaz ko mera salaam...."

Anurag said...

Anvitha >:D<>:D<

Anonymous said...

I loved reading this post.. Interesting.

Rajya Lakshmi said...

This post is so very true. When i was a teenager i was angry with my mom because she asks me too many questions. now my 10 year old daughter hates it when i ask her any question. it a circle of relationship. I read this post 10 times by now. Anvitha Will you please let me know how do I get added in the followers list?

Anvitha said...

Hi Rajya Lakshmi. Nice to read your comment. Thank you. Click on the follow button above the followers list and it will take you through rest of the steps.

Sneha said...

Lovely article! I enjoyed reading this. Thank You Anvitha. I would follow you too :)

Anonymous said...

I liked this post too. But I liked your Anvithaa blog more than this blog
Surya

Anonymous said...

waaaammmoooooooooo :|

Anvitha said...

emaindhi anony?? :| whats soo wrong :-ss

Amrit said...

Hey you.. Write something for guys too

PULA said...

Good one

Gabrielle said...

Hey Anvitha, Am Gabrielle from Canada. My daughter read this article and asked me to read this. This is so very true. You have deep insight of relations. That was so very simple to read but left a deep mark in the hearts of me and my daughter. I am gonna make my mother read this too. I know she would enjoy reading this article. God bless you.

Anvitha said...

Thnks Gabrielle :)

Parthasarathy said...

Well written and framed. A sensitive topiv very finely put down. Good Job Anvitha

Anvitha said...

Thnx Parthasarathy Garu

Anonymous said...

Hahaha! I enjoyed reading this anvi :-bd

Anonymous said...

Dude u blog good \m/

Anonymous said...

Waiting for your next post :)

Akwasibah Ademola said...

I says in bemba mother-daughter relasinaayi wernouty apiskej amurkaloo inkolip :x amort ippi ishukaaya werkitaa anisthaki inkalidaa :p amori injum injum injumaayi :)) abeski inolaa ahem vitaaya :))Love always Anvitha :x

Anonymous said...

:-bd :-bd

Anonymous said...

woochie, loved the post =). It was funny earlier how i was talking about my mom =)) u told me go read the post ;).

I know all this already but good refresh of memory.

~Bella~

Anvitha said...

Thnks for ur comment Bella >:D< Good that u enjoyed reading the post :)

Alex said...

Hey you!! Nice post dear. When is ur next post?

Anonymous said...

Simply supppppeeeerrrrrrbbbbbbb ;)

Prasuna said...

What I love most in ur posts are the pictures. They are very apt and speak a lot. Thank You Anvitha. And it shows that you take your time before you publish a post and work on it. Thats great. Keep going, we are all with you dear :)

Anonymous said...

I love my mommy :x

Anvitha said...

Thnx Prasuna :)

Sofia said...

I love my amma except when she goes mad at me. Sometimes she screams a lot on me. I even doubt if she has all the problems of world only with me. Anyways, I love my appa more than my amma. Next time write about father and daughter :D

chintala said...

Nice one and very TRUE Anvi...I loved it:-)

Anonymous said...

Good to read :) Next time my mom asks why i am late to home, I would give her a proper answer :)

Anonymous said...

Hmmm... Good One

Anonymous said...

Nice Blog and nice background :) coffee theme.. good one :)

Anonymous said...

if my mom questions me like why iam acting crazy, y iam wearing weird outfits, somethin somthing..i will say, chill mom, this is just mom-daughter's life cycle/circle..u were like me in ur teenage, and now ur reacting like the way grandmaa did in those days....i am just flowing with the mom-daughter cycle that all, i cantnot break the rules....lol..lol anvi, i got something to say to my mom when she is mad at me, thnk u(no offence pls)...

Anvitha said...

Lmao Ms Anony... if u are 2 nuts smart, ur daughter wud be 10 nuts smarter!! You are now thinking and finding out smart ways to answer ur momma is it? And dont even think of tomorrow becuz it may scare u away :P Your daughter may find out 10 nuts smarter way :P so, think before u act smart ;) or over smart :|

Anonymous said...

waaammmooooooooooooooooooooo again....... meow meowwwwwwwwwww adi nene :">

Anvitha said...

meowwww nuvva :-*... nenee adhi nenee ;;) Good meow :P

S A said...

Mom is the best person one can have in their life..either son or daughter it doesn't matter...Being a male i wonder why it took almost 24 years to realize watz " true love" or "true relation" in this world. Hats off...

coming to this post....yeah she is always the best person to count on ...I could see this when my mom backs up my sis when my sis does something stupid.....hehehe....this might be the reason.... nice post...Anvitha..

yambayamba said...

My mum tell me to see post. i saw, loved post and fell in love with anvitha. Love u anvitha. u wrote like angel

Rithima said...

Waiting for ur next post dear; are u busy?

sanath said...

hmm....by reading ur post tears are dropping from my eyes....
i never understand my mom i thought she was intruding and never allows me to have fun.but it makes me to feel how badly i am missing her ven i am not beside her.even i calls her daily and speaks to her i am missing her caring towards me..i think in my 9th class ven my mom asked me is it necessary to join in hostel for ur studies.i said i wanna hav some peace for my studies atleast in this way i can escape ur scolding's...now i am realising her scolding's are blessing's to me ani...

Anvitha said...

Thnx for the comment S A, Yambamba and Sanath... Hey Rithima, not much, just that am feeling too lazy. Would come up with a new post very soon. Bye all.

Agustín said...

Anvitha, I regularly followed ur old blog and now ur new blogs too. I would like to tell you something. I have never seen you, But you are the most beautiful girl I've ever known.

Swathi said...

Hey! Good one :* u are a darling

SandeepLaxman said...

Great POST! This generation needs these kinda posts to inspire them.
Certainly there is a necessary to teach them the ethics,values and culture .. This blogpost is enough to inspire them .Thumbs up my new friend !!

Anvitha said...

Thnx Sandeep :)

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